My husband received this article from a coworker the other day. Knowing we are both military he knew we would enjoy this. I think that this is an article that everyone should read!
ITS INTERNATIONAL HAPPY DAY!!!! 🙂
What makes you happy?
What makes life worth living for you?
What makes you get up everyday and realize you are the luckiest person on earth today?
What brings a smile to your face?
What gives you the motivation to be a better person?
What takes you well beyond your meter on peace and happiness?
What is your inner peace?
So think about it. Its International Happy Day! A time that we should take to reflect on our lives. To realize the great things we have. Even though I say we should do this daily, I know that a lot of us tend to look on the negative side of things and its always so much easier to complain. So I challenge you, even if its today, to just reflect on the things that make you happy! Simple positive thoughts can take you very far!
Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.
I found this little sliver of insight and wisdom from a site called BuddhaNet and I love it. Lately I seem to be having some difficulties with letting go of things that I cannot control that happen around me. Reading this has def brought this issue to another light. Makes it easier to really do!
If we contemplate desires and listen to them, we are actually no longer attaching to them; we are just allowing them to be the way they are. Then we come to the realisation that the origin of suffering, desire, can be laid aside and let go of.
How do you let go of things? This means you leave them as they are; it does not mean you annihilate them or throw them away. It is more like setting down and letting them be. Through the practice of letting go we realise that there is the origin of suffering, which is the attachment to desire, and we realise that we should let go of these three kinds of desire. Then we realise that we have let go of these desires; there is no longer any attachment to them.
When you find yourself attached, remember that ‘letting go’ is not ‘getting rid of’ or ‘throwing away’. If I’m holding onto this clock and you say, ‘Let go of it!’, that doesn’t mean ‘throw it out’. I might think that I have to throw it away because I’m attached to it, but that would just be the desire to get rid of it. We tend to think that getting rid of the object is a way of getting rid of attachment. But if I can contemplate attachment, this grasping of the clock, I realise that there is no point in getting rid of it – it’s a good clock; it keeps good time and is not heavy to carry around. The clock is not the problem. The problem is grasping the clock. So what do I do? Let it go, lay it aside – put it down gently without any kind of aversion. Then I can pick it up again, see what time it is and lay it aside when necessary.
You can apply this insight into ‘letting go’ to the desire for sense pleasures. Maybe you want to have a lot of fun. How would you lay aside that desire without any aversion? Simply recognise the desire without judging it. You can contemplate wanting to get rid of it – because you feel guilty about having such a foolish desire – but just lay it aside. Then, when you see it as it is, recognising that it’s just desire, you are no longer attached to it.
So the way is always working with the moments of daily life. When you are feeling depressed and negative, just the moment that you refuse to indulge in that feeling is an enlightenment experience. When you see that, you need not sink into the sea of depression and despair and wallow in it. You can actually stop by learning not to give things a second thought.
You have to find this out through practice so that you will know for yourself how to let go of the origin of suffering. Can you let go of desire by wanting to let go of it? What is it that is really letting go in a given moment? You have to contemplate the experience of letting go and really examine and investigate until the insight comes. Keep with it until that insight comes: ‘Ah, letting go, yes, now I understand. Desire is being let go of.’ This does not mean that you are going to let go of desire forever but, at that one moment, you actually have let go and you have done it in full conscious awareness. There is an insight then. This is what we call insight knowledge. In Pali, we call it nanadassana or profound understanding.
I had my first insight into letting go in my first year of meditation. I figured out intellectually that you had to let go of everything and then I thought: ‘How do you let go?’ It seemed impossible to let go of anything. I kept on contemplating: ‘How do you let go?’ Then I would say, ‘You let go by letting go.’ ‘Well then, let go!’ Then I would say:
‘But have I let go yet?’ and, ‘How do you let go?’ ‘Well just let go!’ I went on like that, getting more frustrated. But eventually it became obvious what was happening. If you try to analyse letting go in detail, you get caught up in making it very complicated. It was not something that you could figure out in words any more, but something you actually did. So I just let go for a moment, just like that.
Now with personal problems and obsessions, to let go of them is just that much. It is not a matter of analysing and endlessly making more of a problem about them, but of practicing that state of leaving things alone, letting go of them. At first, you let go but then you pick them up again because the habit of grasping is so strong. But at least you have the idea. Even when I had that insight into letting go, I let go for a moment but then I started grasping by thinking: ‘I can’t do it, I have so many bad habits!’ But don’t trust that kind of nagging, disparaging thing in yourself. It is totally untrustworthy. It is just a matter of practising letting go. The more you begin to see how to do it, then the more you are able to sustain the state of non-attachment.
Haha, don’t think I don’t notice you or remember you.
Don’t think I will let you back in my mind.
You are the devil sometimes my dear friend.
The past is sometimes forbidden and the past is also sometimes needed.
Needed to learn from our mistakes and to use the past as a fuel for the future,
to better yourself!
The past can can also be forbidden,
Bringing back the thoughts we don’t want or need.
The thoughts that make you look back to the past instead of the future.
This is when the past should be forgotten,
If the thought of the past stops you from creating a better you, this is the past you don’t need.
We need to invest in ourselves and our mind.
We need to look be in the present and the now.
We need to find our dream and live it!
Our past is not all those things.
Sometimes it seems like the past was the best time of our lives and maybe that was true; in the past.
So maybe we to move on from the past.
I once heard, “It’s not the future we are afraid of. It’s repeating the past we are anxious of!”
Sometimes I do fear this and I think a lot of us this as an excuse.
Fear! We def use this one as an excuse to move towards the future and forget the past.
So instead we do what we normally do and still wish to go back.
So the past, Will you use it for good or bad?
Will you let the past be that devil or will you let it be the motivator.
This is up to us! But just remember, it was the past!
Im sorry for all the pain I had ever caused you.
Im sorry If I never told you how much I appreciated you.
Im sorry for not telling you the truth sometimes.
And Im sorry for letting myself think that It could have all be true.
Im sorry if you ever thought that all I did was take advantage of you, because that isn’t true.
Im sorry for being the person who wanted to believe but never could.
Im sorry for, no matter what happened, I always seemed to come back to you.
Im sorry that I was a sucker for knowledge.
Im sorry that sometimes I catch myself dreaming of you.
In years i have not talked to you but you still cross my mind, and Im sorry.
Im sorry that I never forgave myself or you.
Im sorry that I guess somedays I thought we could be friends again.
Im sorry if I ” ruined” your life or your perception of people.
You know that we all aren’t the same.
Im sorry that you have to continue dealing with the things Im sure you continue to deal with daily.
Not because its your choice to deal with it, But also the things you deal with that I know you don’t choose.
Im sorry that you are the person you are and It makes things harder for you.
Im sorry that…..well honestly, I just don’t care anymore.
Im sorry that I tried my hardest for you and It was never good enough.
Im sorry that i gave up multiple times and still came back.
And Im sorry that I was just a sucker for you. Till this day I still dont understand why.
That I just can’t let go of the thought of you. Why can’t you just ever leave?
Am I sorry!?! Am I really! Was it you or me? Both? So one last time….
I am Sorry!
In a place well behind your ego there is a place where nobody cares.
A place where nobody cares what you think or do.
Its very peaceful here.
A place deep inside you that none can see.
Its inner peace surrounds you and you are free without a care.
Your soul, untouched….bare.
Untouched by the human mind and soul.
Not all boxed up or labeled.
When you find your freedom song, your inner peace,
There is no such feeling that someone can replace.
No matter happens, no matter what the storm,
You always have a place to shelter.
Free to hear what your soul is speaking.
Some say it really is a Song of Freedom.
This song that only you know and can experience.
Your song, your inner peace, your strength and confidence.
Your soul will soar like the birds in the sky. Free with the wind.
Out of those boxes you will forever be.
Freedom song your body will always speak.
This is my inner peace.